Introduction

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This is a memoirs of sort, about how my wife and I built a tiny house, and how we live our first year in the Georgia woods without many of the usual comforts of modern life—we only have limited electricity, no plumbing or running water, and no central heating or cooling. It isn’t very glamorous, nor is it a trial to survive. It is life, challenging and sweet, tedious and fun, mundane with hints of glory.

It is almost a do-it-yourself book about how to plan and build your own tiny house, and how to create a smaller and simpler life tailored after your personal needs and desires. How it is possible to carve out a little more freedom—internally, financially, and how you spend your time, without having a big savings account. It is only “almost” a do-it-yourself book—I try not to give too much advice or make lists, I dislike generalizations almost as much as I like them. I can’t claim to have any new insights, answers, or solutions, instead I hope that by simply sharing my experience, it will illuminate some of the many possible questions about building and living in a tiny house. If it will inspire or offend, is entirely subjective.

Before I invite you into my kitchen, I would like to introduce myself. I hadn’t intended to write about myself, to bring an “I” into the story, but my lack of faith in heavy-handed truths, made me think that the subjectivity of the author better be revealed. Who I am—where I come from, where I live, who I love, how I spend my days—is not important in itself, only as indicator of the story’s origin. My eyes are my windows to the world, and the view gets distorted and formed as it pass through the retina and the filter of my personal past. If you know a bit more about me, it might help you decide what to take seriously and what to dismiss, what you relate to and what is not your cup of tea.

The fact that I am from Sweden, for example, might explain why I am such a solitary homebody. Instead of thinking “What a depressive loner,” (which isn’t entirely wrong), you can now nod in understanding: “She is just Swedish.” It might conjure up images of Greta Garbo and not a sociopath. Cultural relativity is something fifteen years abroad have taught me to respect. So let’s begin with that. I’ll be brief.

I left Sweden the day after I finished high school, and spent the following years roaming around Europe’s capitals, sunny islands, and grey suburbs, alternately attempting to study and work, but mostly raked up student loans and created an eclectic job resume. After what felt like a lifetime, but in reality wasn’t much more than a handful of years, I followed my then husband to Tucson, Arizona.

By the time I arrived in Georgia seven years ago, I didn’t think of myself as Swedish. Sure, I still had that Muppet chef accent, and I was glad that our daughter grew up tri-lingual, and I mainly read her Swedish children’s books—their primary colored everyday simplicity was liberatingly free of pink princesses; I thought ribbons and bows belonged on Christmas presents, not baby girls; I occasionally ate pickled herring, gravlax and boiled dill potatoes, enjoyed Bergman movies, shopped at IKEA and H&M, and made saffron rolls for St. Lucia; I thought that walls should be white and floors should be wood, and that society should help its poor and weak, and I would never say that “I am excited” about anything, wear sneakers or other sport related clothes in public, or have writing on my T-shirt, and I talked as fondly of God as I did of Santa, and with the same amount of seriousness. All that was part of the cultural baggage I lugged around with certain amount of pride, but in a quaint, detached way, slung over my shoulder like a fashion scarf that you don’t really need, but like the color.

Flag-toting patriotism and sentimental nationalism are as embarrassing as team jerseys, and arbitrary border lines, drawn by geo-political agencies and dogmatic belief systems, are booby-traps to avoid. That said, no matter if I condone the borders or not, I can’t avoid being influenced by my place within them. I may not agree to being classified as Swedish, but I can’t deny that I come from Sweden. After twelve years in North America, I’m more aware of that than ever.

This is also a book about a cosmopolitan Swede living in rural Georgia, USA.

I’m a fan of Peter Mayle’s “A Year in Provance,” France Mayes’ “Under the Tuscan Sun,” and less known “Almost French” by Sarah Turnbull, but unfortunately I can’t lure you with the beauty and charm of southern France, the history drenched Italian countryside, or the glamour of Paris, but I’ve got fireflies, ice tea, and y’all.

Small town Georgia definitely has its charm, and the friendly politeness is not all surface. I general, people here are kind, and value kindness, a quality ruthlessly underrated in much of the world’s metropolises. Drivers wave to joggers, joggers wave to drivers; the cashier at the supermarket tried to include me in the conversation with the man being served, so that I shouldn’t feel left out, something that would never have happened in Stockholm or Berlin, and the delightful women at the bank refuse to take my id, and handout lollipops to Ada, (who is now a lovely, but rather glum looking pre-teen with her gray hoodie pulled tight,) and dog biscuits to my half crazed hound, who knows the routine so well that she starts wagging her tail as soon as I pull up to the drive-through window.

So here I am. But I feel like I’ve forgotten something important. Like my right arm. My wife. I had a husband, now I have a wife. That is as much as I’m interested in divulging on the topic of the sex of my loves and partners. I am queer in the same way as I am Swedish: I am from Sweden and I fall in love with people, not genders, but you won’t see me waving any flags. Sexual preferences interest me as little as patriotism. Love, however, is something I can talk about all day. And I do.

I love my wife. I adore her. She is so toe scrounging cute with those giant brown eyes that go from wounded four years old to sparkling intellectual in a heartbeat, and rounded cheek bones that I have to bite my lip not to pinch too hard. She is like a chipmunk or squirrel, all bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, but luckily not as bouncy or busy, despite all the sparkle, she is as soft and comforting as your favorite old sweater. She is my best friend, my family, my home, my raft down the river, my paradise. She makes everything better, like Sriracha Hot Sauce.

A writer friend of mine said that I am…here she carefully searched for the right, not too offending, word…cheesy. She added that I didn’t seem to mind, which is true, I rather embrace my cheesiness, which I hope makes it less painful to witness. My wife says that I’m corny, which is also true, but I prefer seriously absurd and absurdly serious.

This is also a book about love. And it might get cheesy.

One warning: I have read a few books, fiction and non-fiction, and I have intermittently studied philosophy, psychology, English, and art, but I have no university degree and I have a horrible memory, which might explain why I never remember who said what and when. Also, I don’t really care who said what and when, and that irreverent and disinterested relationship to academia is probably the more truthful explanation to why I never know if it was Nietzsche or Tolstoy or Buddha or my wife or Rilke or the taxi driver or Tom Robbins or a professor or Kundera or a dream or Cohen… If I have anything like wisdom, it was probably sung into my subconscious by Leonard Cohen.

What I get to is this: if you within the covers of this book find ideas or linking of words that you suspect someone else originated, you are probably right.

As far as I know, I got the idea of dragons from the dinosaurs via the cosmic energy field, or was it my daughter who first told me about the scaly, winged beasts? I am partly kidding, but to illustrate the futility in the search for the origin of ideas. We do not live in an insulated vacuum, no ideas are simply “ours.” We inhale the world through our senses from the day we are born, and before, while still in the womb. Even if you are not a believer in a shared consciousness where people can simultaneously get the notion to build pyramids at the opposite ends of the world—there is no denying how influenced we are by our situatedness within this time and place with its culture, media, and shared identities, and how we soak up knowledge through osmosis. To me, the author is never the Author, and I, as a separate I, don’t really matter. Ideas, on the other hand, are there to share.

I do not think Jesus would care if we did not remember to paraphrase him correctly when we speak of the values of kindness or mercy, or that Buddha wants to be cited when the topic of suffering and its alleviation is mentioned. I choose to believe that they cared more about the message than the messenger, and would tell me to repeat the following idea: Good ideas cannot be repeated often enough. Even on the back of milk cartoons.

I am not trying to claim ownership to any of the ideas expressed in this book, I have only collected, edited, and shared the ideas I’ve been given. If I fail to correctly give credit to whoever deserves it, blame it on my poor recall ability and lack of sincere effort to do so. I apologize if this offends your sense of justice. I am profoundly grateful for all word-linkers and idea-sharers out there. I thank you for your songs, lectures, books, poems, movies, conversations…you inspire and move me, and the beauty you call forth makes life not only tolerable, but a privilege. Forgive my clumsiness, I do not intend to step on anybody’s toes, I’ll do my best to walk in grace.

This book is also my penny to the pot to try to make the world a better place. Of course, there was no getting out of it. It is with existential humbleness that I share my agnostic and paradoxical beliefs that stumble toward something like kindness, something like spaciousness. My daughter asked me the other day what my one wisdom or advice to the world would be, and flushed with excitement and gratitude I rambled for half an hour. That is a question that fires me up even more than if she had asked me to list my top 10 songs of all time (Cohen’s Halleluiah, Cave’s Into My Arms…), and I apologized for my overzealousness. Ada smiled good-humored that 20 answers would do. In an attempt to narrow it down, without getting too bland, I came up with: “Life is an awkward yoga pose, you just have to move around until you feel a little less awkward.” Ada seemed pleased, but not very impressed, as she nodded to herself: “That sounds like words of wisdom, I guess.” Dissatisfied, I later texted my ex-husband’s new wife the one thing I wanted my daughter to know if I died in a car accident: “Happiness is closer to poetry than it is to laughter.”

That about sums it up.

Mecan and Alma

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Dante’s tiny house article

Dante, a freelance artist, designer, art student, photographer, and tiny house fan, wrote an article about us and our tiny house. She also has a great blog: http://lobsterpowers.tumblr.com/

The article is well written, and the pictures beautiful, and we really enjoyed getting to know her and her boyfriend as they came out for the interview. It is strange to read what someone else wrote about us, but I think she got us pretty accurately. (Unfortunately, I never was a scuba instructor, though, I only studied toward the teaching certificate, but that’s a petty detail.)

Tiny House in the Woods

“It’s liberating to be able to build your own shelter and to know that you don’t have to have as much as you think you do. You don’t need very much to be okay.”

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Maria and Sebastienne Grant are two very bright women living in Carrollton, Georgia. A couple years ago, they decided to embark on a journey of building their own “tiny house”. The tiny house movement has been gaining steam recently. It’s a movement that is giving people power to build their own shelters using the money that they can save and live more simply and debt free. These very small custom spaces are also built on a trailer bed, allowing the owners to move as they please. This is the story of one couple’s experience.

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Maria grew up on a farm Sweden. She’s been a Jill-of-all-trades; everything from childcare to scuba instructor to yoga teacher. Her passions currently lie in yoga and writing. Her partner, Sebastienne, is a theoretical psychology student at West Georgia University. She also is a wonderful chef at Farmer’s Fresh, a Carrollton kitchen that works with local farmers in the CSA. Together, they co-parent and home school Maria’s daughter, Ada, during the week. They are a very homegrown kind of family who are doing things their own way.

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Maria and Sebastienne came to the conclusion that they wanted to build a tiny house after looking at houses in the area and talking to banks about mortgages. Sebastienne found out that she could be saddled with a mortgage on top of student loans if she worked at the same place for a year, even though she would only be making around minimum wage. This was not an appealing prospect, so they started to look for alternatives. Both women wanted a place that they could really care about. The couple started their building process slowly. They started collecting appealing images of houses, figured out what they needed to live and drew a plan. Next, they got out some sidewalk chalk and measuring tape to drew it out in real space to feel what it would be like.

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Both women had limited experience with building prior to constructing their house. They started out thinking that they couldn’t do it themselves, but during every stage of building, they gained more confidence with their skills. At every stage, they thought of hiring out someone else because they thought that they couldn’t do it, but they became so excited about having the house be a particular way that they decided to do it themselves. This excitement continued throughout the entire project. They found that they had fun building this place and understanding more about the building process. This confidence also translates into learning about how to live without certain comforts, such as temporarily living without running water. Maria boils water in a tea kettle and then bathes in a tub. These things build confidence for her, knowing that she can be more self-sufficient.

Sebastienne says that “It’s liberating to be able to build your own shelter and to know that you don’t have to have as much as you think you do. You don’t need very much to be okay, even though we are told that we need all of these things to be okay. ‘We need big houses, luxuries and stuff.’ Of course it would be nice to have a hot shower, but we’re actually fine. We just got a toilet a couple of weeks ago. It makes you less afraid of losing things. It would make me less afraid of quitting a job that I hated, for instance. You have a lot more space in the world when you don’t feel like you need so much.”

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Many people that I talk to about the subject of tiny houses are interested in how to raise child in this kind of space. Maria says that Ada loves staying in the tiny house. Ada is a fan of the Laura Ingles series like Little House on the Prairie and enjoys making art projects and playing make believe. All three women are homebodies. They work, study and cook three meals a day all at home. They use the library for internet. One of their favorite activities is reading aloud together.

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Maria and Sebastienne had been training Ada for a few years before making the move. Before moving into the tiny house, Ada would receive so many toys and things that they do not remain special for very long. Living in a small space creates a kind of forced sense of attachment to material possessions that made the few things that they have very special. They all live in a space with only their favorite things. Whenever they go shopping, they must ask themselves and each other if a purchase will be a favorite or will make their life better by coming into the house.

Maria says once she has things that she and Ada become too attached and cling to them. Building and moving into a tiny house forced them to get rid of things and both were relieved once they did.

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Maria grew up on a farm in Sweden. She loved caring for the animals and took extra special care of them, even so far as tying pink bows on the bull’s tails. She had so much fun working on her farm, but felt disconnected when it came to caring for her childhood room. She wanted to create a space where she would feel as comfortable at home as she did on the farm. Her tiny home has a total club-house feel. In creating this house, she wanted to live in a space that would allow her to spend more time doing what she loves and less time working to pay for her life. The couple agrees that they have more chore to keep up with, like fetching water and dumping compost buckets, but it all feels like part of life now.

Maria says “I’d rather carry my own water the rest of my life than having to work more. I love my free time to be home to just write, read and putter around the house.”

This kind of living also allow them to enjoy each other’s company more. Maria emphasizes that couples who live in tiny houses have to really like spending time together in order to live in one, but neither woman is a lone wolf in this home.image

Sebastienne and Maria make a great team, especially when it comes to building. Seb tends to be a researcher, scouring books to learn everything about the subject, while Maria prefers hands-on tinkering to tackle a project.. Even without prior building experience, Seb taught herself how to wire the house’s electricity by reading about 8 books and some blogs about electricity.

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While moving throughout this beautiful home, my boyfriend Colin and I remarked about how spacious it felt. Maria mentioned that she wanted a hallway in their home to allow some space for movement. With my current situation, I doubt that I could even move freely through our own cluttered space like we could in Maria’s. Even with two residents and three guests in the house, I found it to be very comfortable, intimate and cozy. As we sat in the kitchen and chatted, I became a little chilled. Maria just heated up a pot of tea on the stove and the entire house warmed up in minutes. These homes are very energy efficient. The Grant home runs off of solar power and a generator when needed.

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Personally, I am totally into this kind of lifestyle. I believe that we will keep seeing a trend toward micro-living. The millennial generation values can be reflected in some of Maria and Sebastienne’s. We want to live with more freedom from debts and payments, spend more time with the people we love and doing things that make us happy, and also live in highly custom spaces with low environmental impact. I can’t wait to start planning my own tiny house that Colin and I can dream about building one day.

To learn more about tiny houses and Maria and Sebastienne, please visit their blog at http://tinyhousebigdream.me/.

Maintenance

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We have lived here for soon three months, months full of the usual fussiness of life, there always seems to be something, but life in all its something-ness seems a little lighter, a little more manageable, pocket-sized, when living in a small house. It is like when you travel and only bring your most comfortable shoes, flattering pants, and black shirts—you never have to think about what to wear, everything works effortlessly. Our house is like a suitcase full of favorites. It fits us.

I cannot say that it fits us effortlessly. There are quite a few chores to be done in a tiny house, especially since it takes some effort to keep it clean and fresh smelling with four wily beasts (Seb, Ada, Alma, and I) romping around. There are days when I do not finish the morning chores until it is time for lunch, given that I eat my lunch early, and it feels rather funny to dry off the breakfast dishes and empty out the drain bucket right in time to put on the beans. There are always at least five kitchen towels on the laundry line, the floor could always use mopping, and soon there is time to chop firewood, which will add to my routine. It is all pleasant and peaceful, I feel like old “Pettson” (a Swedish children’s book character), who tinkers away at his days, invents this and that, and talks to his cat and chickens, only I have a hound dog and woodland birds, instead. The stories I tell them.

Not that maintenance is something I tend to enjoy without a fair bit of existential angst. I feel with Switters, one of my favorite antiheros, in Tom Robbins’ Fierce Invalids Home from Hot Climates, as he rants about all the tedious things one has to do:

“There’s birth,” he grumbled, “there’s death, and in between there’s maintenance.”

Sebastienne and I both confess to be better at starting new projects than at the upkeep that comes after. If it is absolutely necessary, we can stick to a project that has run dry, say, the soffits… We worked toward the goal of finishing this house for two years, and despite the intention of remaining awake to our days, we frequently had to walk with our wills in front of our feet, something we are both capable of, but choose not to make a habit. The fun lies in the creativity, in the act of creating something new, not in the routine. If I believed in an intentional God, rather than the semi-accidental one I think we are all part of, I would accuse him of the same tendency—he seemed mighty creative in the making of the world, but he is definitely slacking off as far as maintenance goes.

Besides the everyday upholding of order, I have close to an endless amount of building projects to putter with. I built us a bed, a shelf for the foot of the bed, a spice shelf, and a bathroom door, (Seb built the bedroom door in her psychology class, do not ask me how she got away with it.), all satisfying projects to be able to construct and install in an afternoon. It does feel like a luxury to finally have a toilet, especially since the mornings are getting chilly, and it will be great to get enough solar power to run the fridge, and we will not have to buy ice every other day, but otherwise we live so comfortably that I feel no rush to get anything done. Less exciting tasks like installing the gutters and gable vents will be done in time, and I can plod away at my own pace without hurting my arms or interest. If I rather write, like today, or want to enjoy the fall by clearing walking trails in the woods, or want to spend an afternoon with Proust—the house waits without any impatient sighs.

The progress is slow, and not going anywhere more particular than where we are now. I should perhaps not speak for Sebastienne, who is already knee deep in her PhD program and looks forward to years of intense work, but as far as I can tell, she seems enough emerged in her studies that no future is necessary. That a lot of the work can be done while sitting on the sofa with a cup of tea at her lip and a hound draped over her legs, does seem to ease the blow. I, on the other hand, do not have anything to look forward to, which is a rare blessing. I wake up and live my days.

PS: Forgive the shoddy picture quality, I used my phone. I “need” a new camera…

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Chilly morning studies.
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No existential angst there…

Home – writings from the tiny house

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My world is one of beetles and clouds, blisters and stardust, the smell of coffee and endless love, the intimate and the vast.

“We are never real historians, but always near poets.” Bachelard

From a distance, the forest seems impenetrable, the ultimate Strange, but once we step in through its foliage it opens up to us, transforms itself into personable trees, possible paths, and rocks to rest on. As the branches close behind us, the forest is our new reality, and the world we left mere speculation.

“It feels like this is reality now, and everything else is just a story.” Ada mused as the three of us, Sebastienne, Ada, and I, lingered in the kitchen after dinner, sharing our experience of living in our tiny house in the woods where we so far only have limited electricity and no plumbing. Ada put words to the feeling, the realization, that once here, everything else is a there, an elsewhere, and our past only a story in the thickening history book of our lives. The past is transformed into narrative. This is our reality. With the masses of mankind, we mercifully share the ability to sink into our ever changing world, emerge ourselves in whatever circumstance we wake up to. The ones who cannot inhabit their now keep hitting their dense heads into the uncaring wall of existence that separates them from the life that was and the life that will be. What Ada meant is that it already feels completely normal to wash the dishes by hand—boil the water on the camp stove, count each precious drop, and afterward empty out the 5 gallon bucket that is beneath the sink instead of a drain. We are already used to keeping an eye on the electricity meter to make sure the battery does not drop below 12.20, and to unplug everything we do not use. Peeing in the woods have become the kind of normal that might make you want to pull down your pants in a parking lot. Something to watch out for. This life that would have seemed Strange a month ago, is now our Normal.

Already when we drew the floor plan, I imagined this to be my writing spot. I dreamed of this moment. I sit at the gate leg table in our kitchen-living room with trees peeking in through the windows, and clouds waving through the skylight. Across the table from me, my darling wife grimaces, turns her soft skinned face into a mask of furrowed concentration, mumbles quietly to herself like someone in prayer as she reads and takes notes for her consciousness class, Alma, the hound dog, rests heavy nosed and long eared on the sofa, her silky lip spilling over the edge, barely out of pinching distance, and Ada is curled up on the floor in her time machine/spaceship (the box this computer arrived in), chuckling softly at something unsanitary and maladjusted in Calvin & Hobbes, as deliciously pleased at the inappropriateness as only someone as heartbreakingly kind and sweet as Ada can be. I admire the long-legged soon to twelve years old squeezed into a paper box with her careless, deer-like beauty, her father’s one-world-removed hang dog eyes, and a stubborn and self-satisfied resistance against the preteen tendency to stop making box ships. If everyone was as easy to love as her, the world would be a very different place. A woodpecker’s echo rouses this family of dreamers, thinkers, players, and creators, our eyes smile to one another, recognizing the luxury of having built our own house in the same forest as a woodpecker builds hers. I lean back to the sink to refill the water glass, a green mason jar, special edition. Everything is so close here. My family, tea, apples, the woods. Everything is within reach. Everything is right here.

I get the image of this house being a sailboat in the ocean, and of us being its novice crew. I would not want to cross the Atlantic in a row boat, the lack of shelter would corrupt my love for the vastness of the sea into something sickening and clenching, nor would I choose the sin city of a cruise ship in which the salty air gets a refrigerated quality, smudged with smoke and carpet, and the ocean forgotten. A sailboat big enough for my family would be just the thing. I imagine us cozied down below, playing cards and reading, snuggled warm in quilted blankets. I see us on deck—wild in our faces, feet wet, hearts wide, letting the ocean enter, licking off the salt on my lips. This little house is the perfect size to shelter us without separating us from the world. The woods are always lapping at our doorstep, breaking gently at our windows. Equally encouraging us to set sail and anchor down.

Another recurring fantasy is the house as my shell, my body. I imagine my head sticking out on top with the roof for a hat, my arms reaching through the windows, legs instead of wheels, the torso nicely snuggled by cedar siding, the door for…well…this and that. Like a snail or a turtle I take my house with me as I go, tut-tuut, ready for adventure, ready for a nap.

I have always been a homebody (interesting word, come to think of it), or “cave dweller,” as I say when in a self-deprecating mood, despite the seemingly contradicting truth that I have for varying lengths of time lived and worked or studied in six different countries, starting in Sweden, lingering for a substantial time in Berlin, Germany, currently in USA, and have traveled as a tourist to more countries than I remember. No matter if I stayed in a windowless hotel room with turquoise plastic sheets in Ho Chi Minh, Vietnam, or a bunk bed in barrack full of drunken youths somewhere in Australia—I managed to settle in, sweep the floor, light a candle, sit down for dinner, find a reading nook. I have had the luck (or discernment) of having friends and partners of similar inclinations and talents, which is how my longtime friend Lina and I managed to make a park bench in Havana, Cuba, feel homey and civilized (only for a day, albeit), and my cousin Anna swept flowers as a practice of domesticity and meditation every morning from the Laundromat floor on an island in Greece where we spent a summer.

Homemakers. (Not to be confused with “housewife,” though I do not mind that term either, I think of it as a married version of “homebody,” which is exactly what I am.) My mother is probably the best homemaker of all (though she worked as a high school teacher), and has spent a dominating part of her life feverishly dedicated to the making of beautiful and cozy home spaces. As I tell the narrative about my mother, it is wide pride that I joke that if she was the sole survivor of Armageddon, she would make herself a home among the rubbish and ruins, sweep the floor with a branch, stack cinderblocks into a modernistic sofa, and go looking for an iron. Step 1: Make a home.

So goes my dreams of home. That is what this house feels like: Home.

Besides the obvious impact of having built the house ourselves, its diminutive size and simple setup strongly influence the feeling of home. The fact that I can probably, given some time, list every single item in this house—shows my intimate relationship with my material surroundings. I know what I have and where it is (most of the time, some things have not found their logical homes yet). Another factor is that the limited number of things make me use the ones I have more, also strengthening my bond to them, strengthening their sense of worth and purpose, and my appreciation thereof. I touch everything. I was the dishes by hand, the smooth porcelain slippery and cool, lemon zest in my nostrils. Even Ada claims to prefer hand washing to dealing with the dishwasher. Once clean, the dishes all get dry and put back in their places, something I never managed to achieve when having a big kitchen with lots of space and things to fill up said space. Similarly, the bed needs to be made for the bedroom to feel like a place of retreat whenever the living room spills over with beings, and so the cotton creases of the duvet cover gets caressed by morning palms. I also sweep the floor every morning and every night, a three minute exercise started out of necessity (dog hair and red Georgia mud), but now a satisfying finish to the dressing of the house. I never felt I could be the queen of my castle while living in a five bedroom suburban home with two living rooms, only a lost visitor and maid, my dislike of vacuum cleaners turned into hours of sweeping. 225 square feet is the size of my castle.

Upon rereading, I recognize how obnoxious my love of the domestic can seem, its country romantics and privileged poetics. Who on earth enjoys sweeping the floor? Do I not have anything more important than lemon zest going on? Answers: I do. And no. Being married to my second academic within the social sciences, I am versed with Marx, Foucault, and critical theory, hegemonies and oppression, and could perhaps write about the political and cultural system of corrupt capitalists and their lobbyists creating an unstainable world from which the poor and less fortunate have very little chance to rise. The tiny house movement is fertile ground for positive and creative resistance against an economic system based on greed and a culture of desire for More and Bigger. Not only does a small house offer wiggle room in a tight pocket, and less reliance on loans with its connected need for wage slavery, it is also one possible answer to the environmental abuse the current building industry daily deals out. So…somebody should write that book.

My world is one of beetles and clouds, blisters and stardust, the smell of coffee and endless love, the intimate and the vast. I have never been able to retain much interest for the middle level, the one of society, history, politics, economics, and whatnot. It is not that I do not find it important, or that I deny its impact on me and everybody, or even that I put my head in the sand in regard to the issues of the world—I try to be intentional as far as which industries and companies I support by giving them my money, and I have recently committed to be a fulltime vegetarian rather than the “only ethically raised meat-eater” I used to be, and I strive to treat my fellow beings with kindness and respect, but I have more of a Spinozan do-no-direct-harm kind of ethics than a go-out-marching-ala-Gandhi strategy.

I might not seem appropriately concerned with the world’s suffering, but at least I am not that interested in my own either. It is true that I have been spared from life’s most atrocious experiences, but I could tell tedious old stories of eating disorders, nightmares, family issues, heartache, social anxiety, jealousy, allergies, and chronic pain. None of that defines me, or even interests me very much (the heartache might be an exception as far as the tendency to gingerly poke where it hurts goes), which is why I choose not to write about it. Forgive me if I seem offensively well-adjusted, I only know how to stumble toward the light, but then again, every bug knows how to do that.

People often express envy for our simplistic lifestyle, minimalistic closet, and barebones design, as well as our lack of mortgage, microwave or double car garage, but rarely without adding a serious doubt that they could ever “do it” themselves. Setting aside the common fear of the building process, people seem to doubt their actual ability to enjoy a life with less stuff and climate controlled indoor environments, which might be a completely true and legitimate concern. This is where I come in. I hope to share my experience of building and living in a tiny (though compared to the whole world throughout the history of mankind—it is quite average, but I am referring to modern Northern American standards) house, which might both distill and kindle concerns. It might show an alternative way to live, show that there are choices and possibilities beyond shared societal beliefs. Also, I suspect that you will come to see that Sebastienne and I are not necessarily such radicals or activists, that even though we spend a fair amount of our leisure time discussing virtues and we did in fact build our own house, we are also lazy and comfort seeking, buy environmentally horrible Swiffer (name brand!) sweepers because they smell like lavender and vanilla, enjoy sci-fi movies in bed, and spend as much time reading on the sofa as we possibly can. I read philosophy for fun and have a weakness for existential Russian novels, but “Under the Tuscan Sun” and “Why French Women Don’t Get Fat” are two of my favorite reads. You can wire your own electricity and use anti-wrinkle creams. You can do pretty much anything you like, using the blocks available (little hint to the Lego! movie).

I am a poet without poetry, an artist without art, a monk without meditation, a nun without God. The “without” does not necessarily refer to the lack of (poetry, art, a meditation practice, God…) as much a lack of need for (poetry, art, a meditation practice, God…). I am okay just being here. I do not feel a need to do anything in particular. I have no meaning, no goal, no purpose, no justification of being. But here I am. Hello! As I tried to explain my sense of being as experiencing, and that I feel no need to collect the experiences into something like a person, which is also why I do not feel a part of anything like the classical view of family, community, society, or history, my wife teased me, and imitated me with an impressively metallic, robotic voice: “I am a solid perceiving machine.” Which made me laugh and correct it to “solid perceiving being,” with the solid referring to being as embodiment, the flesh and blood of it all, and therefore, ironically, my own demise and impermanence. I am a breath, an ear, and an eye.

That being, sweeping the floor and enjoying the dish soap do not seem stranger or more meaningless activates than anything else. This dear little house in the woods allows me to sink into the day, sink into the world, melt into existence. To be. As Bachelard wrote in his The Poetics of Space: “The house protects the dreamer.”

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Move-in-ready!

As I write this, I sit at the kitchen table in our tiny house. It is just after 5:30 am, the dark woods are impenetrable to the eye, but I hear the neighbor’s roosters crowing hesitantly. It has rained for two days, and our solar system is running low, so I choose to write by the light of the oil lamp and a couple of candles that my mother sent us. I plug the computer straight into the DC outlet, rather than through the invertor, and I am as glad to know what I am talking about as I am that it works.

We moved in to our little “Getaway” in the woods! The house has reached a level of finished that we find decently comfortable to live in, but it is far from done. We do not yet have a fully functioning bathroom, our kitchen is only half set up, and we must build the internal doors, get a proper bed, buy and install the larger AC solar system, put up the gutters to collect rainwater, decide what plumbing we want, and get and install our heating and cooling apparatuses. Not to mention that we need to deal with the land itself: I would settle for a pristine forest glen full of wild flowers or an unkempt English garden or any natural looking and easily maintainable garden style, but the current mix of brush piles, leftover building materials, trash and weeds give it that rugged, not to say redneck, backwoods feel, which is not exactly what we are going for. There is still a lot of work ahead, but…we moved in, yay!

We do have the big house” in town with Hannes and April where we use the shower, Internet, and laundry, etc., and we have Paul and Terra across the street who let us fill up our two 5 gallon water tanks, which we need to do every other day. We are grateful for friends who feel like family.

The past month was a whirl wind of work. The evidence thereof is that I am currently wearing wrist braces on both arms and am typing slowly with my pinkies. (Insomnia makes me more patient with time consuming tasks. The hours before dawn feel like bonus time.) I have a crippling combination of carpal tunnel syndrome and “tennis elbow” since I, during the last two days’ rush, built and painted a sink cabinet and two small chests/drawers, spray painted two chairs, polished the floor twice with a car buffer, and scrubbed the whole house with yummy smelling oil soap. The floor buffing is what did me in – crawling on all fours for hours while holding on to the vibrating machine intended for much shorter and upright use made my neck wish it could snap off and go and find itself a more comfortable home.

The most exciting new development is that we got our small DC solar system set up. Sebstienne deserves a load of credit for teaching herself about solar power and electricity (Paul is a good go-to for questions) and ensuring that we now have power enough to use any lamps we need, run the ceiling fan (which she also installed), use the computer (We have already watched movies in bed, which feels like utter luxury.), and almost everything we need besides the small fridge (we put ice in the freezer part) or the still non-exciting air conditioner. To get the solar panel up on the roof was tricky, but nothing compared to knowing how it works, and hooking it up to batteries and invertors and power systems.

Sebastienne has an enviable amount of patience for reading the fine prints of instruction manuals, driven by an endless curiosity to figure out the “why” and “how” of it all, which proved very useful during the house building process. Instructions make my eyelids as heavy as pregnant possums, and I have very little interest in anything that I cannot figure out by myself with the use of logical reasoning and trial and error attempts. Fortunately, there is a surprising amount of things that fall into the latter category.  Also, I have plenty of endurance and focus for the actual work, and I got us up and going every morning, which proved very useful, too. In the end, we made a house together – a monument to our teamwork.

The moving day was hot and the humidity had the quality of reversed rain, which came as no surprise, seeing that it was August 1st in Georgia. I was rendered fairly useless with my gimpy arms, and it took us the whole morning to fill the small U-Haul truck. As we got to the land, John Lebowitz and Angie Pace and her girls were there to help us unload our peach boxes full of books and tea pots, and with close to heroic effort, they managed to squeeze Ada’s mattress through the hole to the loft. Despite our skepticism, the sofa slid in through the door without much of fight, and two hours after our arrival, we were already sweatily sipping the iced green tea in the living room.

Now, a week later, Sebastienne is building a dog pen (Actually, right now, she is on the sofa with the hound, blinking sleepily and sipping the tea I made her.) so that Alma can use the dog door, but she is soon about to shift gears completely: In two weeks she will start a PhD program in psychology, and even though we still have plenty of work to do on the house, her priorities have to alter radically. Building will be an occasional weekend and break activity, rather than the all-consuming work (besides our paying jobs) of the past year and a half.

This blogging process is coming to an end as well, (I think). I intend to write one more post during the coming weeks about downsizing, how we fit all our stuff into the house, and how we live here, and there might be a handful of sporadic posts throughout the fall. As the New Year ticks awake, I will attempt to wrestle all this (house building, living small, life in the woods, etc.) into something pleasant and readable in book shape. I will let you know how that goes.

PS: Excuse the bad picture quality, my camera is dying on me.

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We built a porch! (How to impress your kid.)

“…and what are you going to do today?” Ada’s voice reached me all the way from Sweden where she was visiting her grandparents.

“Build the back porch.”

“Oh, Mama, you say that as other people say that they are going grocery shopping!” She laughed pleased, and I could not help feeling very proud that my soon to be twelve years old thinks that I am cool. I know it will be harder when she is sixteen.

I remember a conversation Sebastienne and I had while driving to Asheville some time during our early courtship when we both shared the belief that our teenage selves would have been happy with how we turned out, which we took as an indicator of not being completely off track. Not that we were particularly ambitious as teenagers, I had a foggy vision of either becoming a scuba dive instructor in Thailand, a writer in an attic apartment in Berlin, or have a vineyard outside Siena, and I believe Sebastienne mostly wanted to leave Texas, but as most half-depressed and over-read youths we did know that we wanted something Good, something Beautiful, and something True. And Love, of course.

As most half-happy and decently well read adults we have become rather post-structural and skeptical that there are such things as goodness, beauty, and truth, at least in any objective sense. Still, without being able to rely on any authority on the validity of human values, we feel comfortable enough that we know what ours are and we live to pursue them. And we do have Love. Our young selves with their frizzy hair, pimples, and baby chub would be glad to see that we did not settle for anything less. They would be relieved that we did not become complacent or resigned, that we still have noble heroes (Seb – Dalai Lama, M – Joan of Arc), and strive to be as giant as our 5.3 feet allow us. And they would think that we are pretty cool to be able to throw together a screened-in porch.

People often say that we must feel so proud to have built a whole house, and on a theoretical level, I guess we are, but the project was too long, and too broken down to be able to feel the entirety of it. Each day we worked on something small, painting a wall here, and putting up window trim there, and each task on its own seemed unremarkable and quite mundane. That we by the end of it got a house is difficult to comprehend. The porch, on the other hand, only took us 6 half-days to build from the time we went to Home Depot to get the lumber, down to the finishing touches. I get that.

Framing is by far our favorite part of building, to out of a pile of planks be able to build a three dimensional structure. Lego for adults. It is fun how much we have learned, now do not need any plans, but can make things up as we go along. Play with it. The discovery of Simpson Strong-tie connectors has definitely made it easier to build things fast, straight, and strong. After the base frame, we added balusters to make the porch feel more tucked in, since it is quite far off the ground. We already had the metal roof (we bought it with the rest of the roof a year and a half ago), and chose to leave it without a sub panel or drop ceiling, so that we can hear the rain. The screen door ended up being too tall for us to get the roof angle we wanted, but Seb cut off almost a foot from its center, then hammered nails half way down one side, cut the heads off, added some glue (liquid nails) and put the pieces back together. She used pet screen on the door to make it tougher. We painted everything semi-gloss white (Behr’s “Polar bear”) except the door and the floor, which we painted high-gloss gray (Behr’s “River Bend”) to match the rest of the house. We stapled on the screen, and added pressure treated and painted 1x2s.

Now we have a cozy and bug free place to hang out, drink tea, and wonder what our eighty years old selves will think of us, and we of them.

Coming up soon (very soon): We move in on Friday August 1st, and before that we have to hook up our solar panels for the DC system, finish out the closets, polish the floor, and pack and clean!

We love the Simpson Strong-Tie wood connectors, they make building easy.

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Seb checks the angles of the roof rafters. Notice the guitar pose. My rock star wife. :-)
Seb checks the angles of the roof rafters. Notice the guitar pose. My rock star wife. :-)
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The mega long connector

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Paint push Swedish style: white eco paint and gently treated white pine floor.

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I do not like labels, in particularly not the defining ones, since their lack of paradox, complexity, and changeability make them smell an awful lot like lies, or at least gross simplifications. I consider myself a human, most of the time, that is anatomically female and culturally cosmopolitan. The rest is details, social constructions that occasionally have something interesting to say about my experience, but most of the time hide more than they reveal. One of the details is that I was born in the part of the world that rather arbitrarily is labeled Sweden. I moved away shortly after I finished high school, which has made my lasting impression a mix of idyllic childhood memories and critical teenage disillusionment. I never got a chance to get the adult’s more nuanced perspective on the country I grew up in.

There is one thing that I have fond memories of from both my younger, home-team-supporting days, and my older, no-team days—the aesthetics. I can claim no objectivity here; I was force-fed white walls, pale pine floors, woven rugs, linen cloths, natural materials like wood, metal, and sheep skins, sparse design, pale, subdued colors and white white white. It is all about the light, about letting the sun in whenever it comes for one of its rare visits. I never got sick of it, though, and I still find Swedish design the most unpretentiously beautiful and livable.

I appreciate that it is a classless aesthetics—you can find it in Stockholm’s most fancy villas and in the smallest, summer cottage. Everybody can afford to not have too much stuff…to keep their rooms simple, open, and clean. Rich people often get too tempted to show off their wealth, which is probably why high couture and design can be so tacky, and I am sure that there are tasteless Swedes, but most of the time they use the inclination to spend their money on quality over quantity. The result is homes that you can (and should) walk barefoot in, where a jar of dandelions looks sunny on the kitchen table, and quickly boiled summer potatoes with fresh fish, a bit a butter and dill is all the feast you need.

Sebastienne and I currently live in muggy Georgia with its fireflies and ice tea, without a single reindeer in sight (Not that there were any reindeer outside Stockholm, either.) and plenty of sun to go around. We have made this part of the world our home, and though I rarely miss Sweden, I do miss its beauty. Luckily, my Texan wife, who has a (perhaps) surprising love for romantic French country-style, was easily won over to the cozy Swedish country cottage look. My mother gave us a subscription to “Landliv” (Country Life), and its monthly dose of white and wood helped to convince her. The real reason, though, is that we are going to have such a small house that almost any other style would overwhelm the space. I promised her that if we ever get a castle—she can have all the romantic swirls she likes.

51eEW1N5y+L._SY300_First step in Swedish-ification is to paint the walls and the ceiling white. The natural wood is only kept in saunas, ski cottages, and hunters’ cabins. To pick the white was easier said than done, and took us hours of considerations. We had originally planned to use Behr’s “polar bear,” but we decided to use a more ecologically sound paint, which meant that our search for the perfect white had to be done all over. The company Sebastienne found, Yolo Color House, http://www.yolocolorhouse.com/color/explore-color/?color=imagine02,   uses “no mutagens, no hazardous air pollutants, no ozone depleting compounds, no formaldehyde, no phthalates, no volatile organic compounds (VOCs),” and has amazing colors to choose from. We wanted a white that really looked white—not yellow or gray, but at the same time did not feel cold or eye-numbingly bright. The color we finally settled on, “Imagine 2,” has an almost imperceptible hint of lime green in it, like elderberry flowers, something they did not mention in the description, but which we really like—it looks bright and cheerful. The runner-up, “Air 1” ended up looking much too dark and creamy ones we saw the large paint chip. We picked semi-gloss, since it looks best on wood, and is easier to keep clean.

Compared to most paints, the YOLO paint smelled a lot less, and as a good paint should be, it covered well, and did not get streaky. The only question/complaint is that it made our nails rust and show up, which is something we are going to contact the company about, even though the second coat managed to cover most of them. Over three 10 hour work days, we got it all done. A handful of friends (Amelia, and Matt and Erin, thank you!) helped, which we were very grateful for.

paint! (10)The second necessity (in my opinion) is the pale, plank floor. The white pine is naturally so gorgeous that it seemed like a shame to cover it with any stain. After long research, Sebastienne (she is so good at that…) found OSMO polyx-oil, which is a natural oil stain from Germany. It is a hard wax, which means that it penetrates the wood rather than staying on the surface, and then hardens. Sebastienne also contacted the company to ask which color combination would preserve the raw wood color, and with that information in hand, we ordered a gallon and a quart of clear, matt-silk stain, and a sample of translucent white to help counteract the wet look of the clear.

The OSMO is supposed to not release any toxins, or anything unsavory at all, when dry, but while we put it on it smelled like turpentine, or something in that direction. Good ventilation is a necessity. We bought the special brush, despite that it cost $30, because we had read that it could get sticky if you did not apply it right. It was easy, though, as long as you applied it thin and really brushed it into the wood. If we saw any wet spots, we wiped them off with a rag. Something that also made a difference, is that we had used sticky, tacking cloths to clean the floors with beforehand, which helped get rid of any leftover sawdust. Once the second coat is dry, it gets lightly buffed it, and ta-da!

Once it was all done, we laid on the floor in our bedroom, soaking up the peaceful beauty, never wanting to leave. It gets harder and harder to go “home.” For our anniversary (3 years already!), we will spend our first weekend there, celebrating Midsummer’s Eve, which is second in popularity only to Christmas in Sweden. It will be a new experience to be in the house without working. To learn to love it through leisure. I am sure it will be lovely, we will build a maypole, decorate it and ourselves with flowers, eat pickled herring and salmon, and plenty of berries. I will feel very Swedish. Paradoxically, a label I do not really mind, after all.

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